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How To Book A New York City Dominatrix


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Your fingers hover over the keyboard. You're practically paralyzed as your heart palpitates. You've fantasized about this for days, weeks, months, possibly years. Her pictures are drop-dead gorgeous, and every paragraph that you read on Her website has captivated you. So come on, what are you waiting for? You're nervous, maybe even afraid. You haven't felt this way since you tried asking a girl out to the middle school dance. You want her to like you, but two questions ring loudly in your head: "What do I say? What do I do?"


Fear not! New York City Dominatrixes are not as scary as you think they are (unless you want them to), in fact, we tend to be very businesslike. A lot of first-time bookers overthink in terms of how to interact with Us, but falling into our good favor is a lot easier than many think. Some would say that it's just a matter of simple common sense and courtesy, but with the number of people that just straight-up botch this process, it's just like Voltaire said: "Common sense isn't actually common" (speaking from experience here). With this quick little guide and some extra tips, you'll be sure to nail that first impression with that hot, sexy, and commanding New York City Mistress of your dreams.



"Hi, How Are You?"


Like I previously mentioned, a New York City Dominatrix tends to be very businesslike, with that in mind, I highly recommend writing to Her as if you are writing a business e-mail. First impressions are crucial. I do not recommend reaching out through social media as it's too casual, makes you look less serious, risks that Domme's social media account, and your chances of being catfished are higher. With all of that said, your message has a higher chance of being ignored. Do you know how many horny weirdos are in Our message requests? Don't make Her think you're one of them. Contacting Her directly through Her website is the way to go!


In your initial e-mail, I recommend using a standard business

e-mail format. An example:


Hello Mistrix Violeta,
My name is Bradley. I would like to book a session for 1 hour on either October 3 at 12:00 pm, October 4 at 3:00 pm, or October 5 at 6:00 pm. My interests include CBT, sissification, and corporal punishment. My limits are blood and verbal humiliation. I have previously seen Mistress Blah Blah, her email is contact@mistressblahblah.com and her website is mistressblahblah.com. My phone number is 555-555-5555. I hope these activities pique your interest and that you may consider me to serve You. I look forward to your reply, and I hope you have a beautiful day.
Sincerely, Bradley.

What went right in that message? Bradley was polite, introduced himself, gave 3 dates and times, concrete and identifiable activities (not vague-but-obvious stuff like "Domination" and "BDSM"), his limits, a reference with contact info (if he hasn't seen anyone, he would disclose it), gave his real phone number for screening (more on that later), and concluded his e-mail in an enthusiastic, but respectful manner. It can be exciting to reach out to a Domme, but don't let it get to your head and forget your basic manners and communication skills. There's an actual living and breathing human that will receive your message. Don't act like a fool. That's for later.



"You Want My What?"



Screening is crucial for an NYC Domme. It's a measure that ensures Her safety and wellbeing. Like I previously mentioned, do you know how many weirdos are out there? Different Dommes have different screening methods, but when They ask for your info, don't be dumb and try to evade providing what They ask for. This is to make sure you are a real and safe person and not some wacko.


A common concern amongst some is that we would disclose that information for some reason. If you are one of those people, I invite you to think about this: what would a New York City Dominatrix, someone who is trying to run a business and maintain a reputation, gain from exposing a client's information? WHO is She going to give that information to? Look, what We want the most is to lay low and have the most minimum drama in Our life. Why would We want to stir the pot so severely? I repeat: WHAT DO WE GAIN FROM THAT??? Exactly. Nothing. There's nothing to be scared of.



Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is


Come on, buddy! You're almost there! Don't screw the pooch now! After communicating with your desired New York City Mistress and agreeing to a date and time, it's time to send Her the deposit. This shows that you are going to see Her for real and not flake or waste Her time. As previously mentioned, different Dommes, different measures, but one thing rings true: DO NOT WRITE INCRIMINATING THINGS ON YOUR NOTE!!! This means: no "For Mistress", "Session", "Deposit", "Your slave", or any other stupid stuff like that! When you do this, you risk having Her payment platform shut down. This can be devastating and can happen with just one stupid mistake. When writing the note, just leave a single emoji, or better, nothing at all if possible.


Above And Beyond



You want to make sure the New York Dominatrix that you're going to see likes you? It's all in the details. Check out Her website to see if She has a wishlist. You want to make sure She REALLY likes you? Get Her something more personal and non-fetish-related such as home goods or self-care products. Don't worry, you don't have to spend hundreds on a gift. It's the thought that counts. This tells Her that you're intentional in starting off on the right foot and will do your best at being a considerate and respectful client moving forward. Do this, and She'll remember you.


I hope this guide helps you and motivates you further to go on your FemDom journey! Follow this guideline, and you will definitely stand out in a sea of desperate and vulgar requests.


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